Orgasms are great, so it’s natural to want more of them. But even if you don’t want to more of them it is necessarily OK if you want to make them all stronger and more intense. Who wouldn’t want to think every time, “That was my best orgasm ever?”
But of course sex is a journey, not a destination – and sex isn’t always about orgasms. It’s about exploring your body and finding new ways to pleasure. Some orgasms are small and some are big; some are intense AF and some are milder releases, but in many ways the variety is the beauty of sex (coupled or solo).
However, if you’ve been feeling like your Os have been sticking to the small end of the spectrum lately, and if you want to learn how to have a better orgasm, there are things you can do to get there. However, because every body is different, it’s important to keep in mind that what helps one person may not help another. So, to help, POPSUGAR spoke to several people and experts to bring you the best tips for building a stronger orgasm – try one or all of them, or just use them as inspiration to come up with a new technique. on your own.
Below you will find the best tips to get stronger, more intense orgasms. To enjoy!
1. Keep going even after you’re done
Instead of stopping play immediately after experiencing an orgasm, don’t be afraid to “ride the wave,” as the Weeknd says. Since people with vulvas often have shorter refractory periods than people with penises, you may even experience another orgasm shortly after you’ve already experienced one.
“Think of it this way — the body is already warmed up and in mode, so it’s easier to return it to an elevated spot than starting from scratch,” says Alicia Sinclair, founder of B-Vibe and Le Wand. You try to stay aroused, rather than letting yourself completely cool down after an orgasm. However, if you feel that one part of your body is becoming overstimulated, “try switching to another part [body part] for the subsequent orgasm. Listen to your body and start over after each orgasm to maintain arousal,” says Alex Fine, founder of Dame Products. There are tons of erogenous zones to explore.
2. Masturbate, masturbate, masturbate
Don’t be embarrassed or awkward about your masturbation technique or habits – touching yourself often can help improve your orgasms. “Experiencing pleasure is about being connected to your body and your partner. The better you get to know yourself through masturbation, the better you can communicate your desires and guide your partner to help you cum – and help yourself get there while solo sessions,” says Mia Davis, founder of the sex education website and app Tabú.
Take the time to really enjoy it. Get a bath ready, put on some music that turns you on and grab your favorite vibration. Spend time on the practice, as masturbation is largely a practice of self-care.
3. Close your eyes
When you close your eyes, you cut off one of your most important sensory ports. And this, in turn, will make everything you feel extreme (in a good way). Really lean into everything that happens to you and pay attention to every nerve ending. If closing your eyes isn’t enough for you, try adding a blindfold to your sexual play for some bonus play.
4. Lace to get you over the edge
Edging is the easiest way to get a stronger, more intense orgasm. It’s what happens when you repeatedly stop sexual play just before you experience an orgasm. “Essentially, you slowly bring yourself closer and closer, but hold back before going over the edge,” says Nadia Kumentas, founder of the holistic wellness site Mingo Health.
While this sounds like cruel and unusual punishment, raising your pleasure threshold will only make the final release more explosive. When you get excited and then let go, the energy is recycled and waiting just below the surface to be re-ignited. If you keep building towards a final, the end game will be unreal. “Prolonging the whole juicy process makes everything more fun overall (whether you’re alone or with some friends!),” says Kumentas.
5. Breathe in your orgasm
“Breath is paramount. It keeps the body loose and receptive, easier to arouse,” says Elayne Daniels, PhD. Use all those techniques you’ve heard about in yoga and pilates classes, and breathe deeply and consciously throughout your sexual experience. It’s easy to get excited and hold your breath, but avoid this to find a stronger, more intense orgasm.
6. Find a vibrator you love
A small vibrator can make all the difference during sex — especially for people with clitoris. Try something small and easy to maneuver like the Fin from Dame Products, or if you want something more explosive, you can always opt for a rabbit style vibrator that stimulates both the clitoris and internal pleasure spots at the same time. (Hello, mixed orgasm.) And don’t forget about anal play — adding a butt plug or anal beads to your regular masturbation habits can greatly enhance your orgasm.
7. Try a new sex position
One of the best ways to improve your orgasms is to try a new sex position. After all, your body can get used to the sensations that come from consistently lying on your back or stomach, so switching things up can be the spontaneous boost your orgasms need. Our suggestion? Try tilting the scale. This is often suggested for two people with vulvas, but really any duo can fall in love with this oral sex position. Your partner lies on their back and you sit on top with your legs wrapped around their face (almost like a 69 position). Support yourself with your arms and move your hips back until their tongue hits just the right spot. You cum first, then you can satisfy them orally.
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